Life is hard. The worst thing about it, though, is that nobody really knows how to live life the “right way.” We constantly make mistakes – we trusted the wrong people, we applied to the wrong job, we jumped when it wasn’t the right time to jump.
Sometimes, these mistakes give us new insights. They make us better. But, unfortunately, there are mistakes that are too much to bear and can no longer be corrected. These mistakes cost us our peace and sadly, our life.
If you would really think about it, we all go through tough times. We all experience loss and grief at some point in our lives: the loss of a loved one, of one’s youth and innocence, of a dream we fought so hard to achieve. These experiences can make a person feel anxious, depressed, or even traumatized.
For an outsider, it is so easy to say “just move on” or “happiness is a choice.” But for the one experiencing it, waking up and living life every day is a challenge.
The important question is, “what can you do about it?” Some people may walk out of it easily, but it is not always the case for everybody.
If you are experiencing these signs, perhaps it is time that you consider therapy:
- You feel overwhelmed with intense emotions
When you go through a challenging time in your life like losing something that means the world to you or going through a major change, it is normal to feel all kinds of emotions.
You might feel anger, frustration, agitation, anxiety, and even depression. And as normal as it is to feel them, it is actually an early sign that you might need to talk about what you are currently experiencing.
Therapy can help you navigate through this tangled ball of emotions, and will help you understand your current situation.
- You feel empty and stuck
Here’s the thing about life: not all people feel the need to ask for help because for them, it is a sign of weakness. And so, when they experience an intense emotion, they just sleep through it and hope that after a few days it will pass.
Sadly, not everything will go away in a few days or a few weeks or even in a few months and years. There are experiences that will stay with us for the rest of our lives.
Waiting for something to just disappear will only make a person feel empty and stuck in the process.
When this happens, happiness and growth will be miles and miles away. You will be stuck wishing that things were different. You will keep on searching and running toward the things that don’t really matter.
Therapy, in this case, can help you make peace with your past in order for you to find meaning and purpose in the present.
- Trying to function seems like a struggle
When waking up feels like a chore and doing your usual routine feels like a struggle like going to school or work or socializing with your family members and friends, then it might be a sign that there is something wrong.
If the things you used to enjoy started to feel like a burden, it might be because you are carrying something heavy with you and talking about it to a professional can help you understand underlying issues and problems.
Sudden outbursts and being unable to control your emotions around your family, friends, and colleagues are also signs that you might need help.
- You are being eaten by negative thoughts
Every day in your life, do you experience being eaten by unwanted and intrusive negative thoughts?
Like, “you are not enough,” “you are unworthy of the good things and people in your life,” “you are a disappointment,” or “you will never make it?”
Then, it is a good choice to talk to a professional and try therapy.
You see, your mind is very powerful and what you tell yourself, you will eventually believe. And the worst thing is that there is no way for you to escape your mind and your thoughts.
But, with therapy, you can find a way to change your thoughts from negative to positive.
- You can’t seem to cope
There are so many ways to cope – you can slip into bad habits like doing drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol.
Or you can try to practice good habits like exercising, doing arts and crafts, or maybe even travel.
The thing is, we all have our own ways to cope when life didn’t go as planned or when we experienced something that led to trauma.
Sometimes, these coping mechanisms will work. Sometimes, they won’t. And, if they don’t, or you can’t seem to find a strategy or a habit that really works for you, it’s time that you face what you’re going through and talk about it with a professional.
- You are isolating yourself
When we don’t feel good about ourselves or if we are going through tough times, we have the tendency to shy away from the world.
We often forget that there are people who genuinely care about us, and so, we push them away thinking that they wouldn’t understand what we are going through.
Sometimes, we fear being seen. And, although it helps to stay away from people for a while, it wouldn’t do us any good to stay isolated for a long time.
It may be taxing, and perhaps scary, to talk about what you’re going through, but giving therapy a try is the best way to get out of the dark and to find healing.
We all go through tough times, and it is okay to not always feel good about ourselves and our lives. But, if these tough times are causing your mental health to decline, and if you are experiencing the signs listed above, then it might be time for you to give therapy a try. To talk to a certified therapist, call (805) 842 -1994.